Resisting or Working with Obstacles: by Susan Washington
Why does it seem so difficult to face so-called roadblocks ? Well first let’s look at what the mind makes up about obstacles. We make up meanings that are about ‘us’ and our ‘success’ rather than the issue or challenge. Part of being human is that our perceptions and thoughts determine our reality. Perception of roadblocks and obstacles might be avoided if we saw what stops us as a good opportunity to grow, be more flexible, commit, let go, or be patient.
Simply put: Obstacles increase our capacity to learn, grow and become more resilient. If we were compassionate and watched our reactions to difficult people or situations, we could re-set our expectations and have ease and love rather than stress and annoyance.
In business and in our personal lives try reacting to obstacles like this:
1.Notice your agitation. Notice that you feel blocked. You probably have a right to feel that way at some level. No problem.
2.Identify the ‘obstacle’. Maybe it’s your own mental state. A missing piece of the puzzle. A situation. A delay. A relationship. A ‘lack’. A wedge between you and your goal.
3.Identify just one thing you can do about it.
4.Look at what you cannot do. And yes we are powerless over a lot, including other people’s opinions, timelines, ‘fairness’, etc.
5.Choose another way to look at it.
6.Re-set your goal, drop it or take responsibility for changing it.
7. Be grateful that learning opportunities are often disguised as ‘problems’ and remember that in five years this very obstacle will be forgotten and behind you.
We sometimes forget that one of our most powerful choices is changing our attitude and remembering where we are headed and that problems are temporary. For more insight and tips, Follow Susan on Facebook, and share your go-to method for overcoming obstacles. Then check back here to see how others overcome their challenges.