How many phrases and quotes have we heard about patience? After all, it’s supposed to be a virtue right?! What does the word “patience” mean for YU?
I must admit, this past season has without a doubt, kicked me & my family where the sun don’t shine! Along with the winter blahs in Alberta, the empty containers of antibiotics, cough syrup, kleenex and even the pharmacy shelves (did you know the NeoCitran factory had a fire??), my patience was definitely tried and at times, no where to be found.
Now I know the-wife-mommy-life coach-entrepreneur part of me understands what patience is, believes in it, feels the wisdom in applying it, even teaches it… yet, I am also very aware there is that “little me” within me that was often, having a four alarm tantrum. That’s where the words “It’s all about ME, ME, ME” come in.
I was experiencing the I need it NOW. I need patience NOW!! I need to sound professional NOW. I need to be healthier NOW. I need you to be healthier NOW. I need NeoCitran NOW! I need to be skinnier NOW. I need to be happier NOW. I need more money NOW. I need more vacation time NOW.
NOW, NOW, NOW…
I know, it’s annoying to even read it. It felt exhausting and the energy of it felt way too controlling. So what do I do to counteract impatience? How do I practice patience? How do I engage my “adult me” within me when there is a screaming little toddler not getting her way? After all, she wants it NOW, NOW, NOW!!!!!!!!
Two steps 4YU~
1. Acknowledge the little YU within you. Get a clear picture of you as a little person. And be with the awareness of how you would assist a little person in need. Just thinking the words “Yup, I’m not being patient” can be enough to trigger a change in your behaviour.
2. Find a healthy way to release those anxious feelings.
Coaching can really help you figure out perspective and bring clarity to how you trip yourself up. Most people relate to “who they don’t want to be” (grumpy, sick, snotty parent for example) & “what they don’t want”(to be grumpy, sick & snotty!). Some great questions to ask yourself are “who do you want to be?” & “what do you want?” By stepping into the BIG space of patience, you are honouring YU!!
The truth is… yes, patience IS a virtue. A beautiful one, that can guide your life and bring with it an inner peace that we all crave.
Experience the magic of your patience…and when you go looking for it, just remember to breathe. It will often start there.
“Learn the art of patience. Apply discipline to your thoughts when they become anxious over the outcome of a goal. Impatience breeds anxiety, fear, discouragement and failure. Patience creates confidence, decisiveness and a national outlook, which eventually leads to success.” ~ Bryan Adams
~ Patiently Yours,
Perri L. Besserer, CPCC;ACC Life & Success Coach
NuYU Life Skills Co.