I am a rule follower that gets feisty when people tell me what to do. I colour inside the lines, until someone tells me to colour inside the lines. I mind my business until someone tells me I should go left and the first instinct I’ll have is to go right.
Being the rule follower that I am, I love boundaries. I can recall a playdate I had when I was around 6 years old. The Mom-in-charge taped string to the floor in the shape of a square. When we stepped into the square, it was tea party land. The tea set full of water could stay in the square, they could not come out. I loved it! I can vividly remember the security I felt within the framework she created. I knew how to behave in that situation without someone ‘nagging’ me. And so it began. I love the expectations on the ski hill, cross walks, and even relationships. All keeping my rule follower ‘self’ feeling secure while keeping the independent me satisfied.
When the idea for this article was born it was about boundaries we must create as Moms who are entrepreneurs. At the time I had just moved my office to a separate room (with a door!) and my work life changed drastically. In addition to this new physical boundary, I created rules that would work for my family. I communicated to them what I expected, they respected what I asked, and my productivity has gone through the roof. But…I was having a heck of a time putting it into an article. No motivation to write about it whatsoever.
Then, while washing my hair, (when most of my epiphanies happen) a flood of information rolled in. The boundaries I needed to look at were actually anti-boundaries, and they resided not in my new office (with a door!) but they went all the way back to the 6 year old self that loved the comfort of being boxed in. Holy Moly.
Boundaries are everywhere. I’m grateful for boundaries in our society…personal space, how we behave in groups and the lanes on the freeway. We make individual boundaries to protect ourselves, which can be perfectly perfect for the situation, or we can get OVER-protective and hold our genius back.
Here are some questions for you to use for a little internal excavation around your own inner boundaries. Journal your responses and use them to zone in on where you may be boxing yourself in.
– If you had unlimited confidence, what would you do next?
– What are your largest barriers or fears? Have you been unknowingly creating the ‘string box’ around any of these?
– What do you want for yourself? In business and in life. Dream big girl.
“Dreams have always expanded our understanding of reality by challenging our boundaries of the real, of the possible.” – Henry Reed
My string box brought me comfort. You know what isn’t comfortable? Breaking through glass ceilings, feeling the fear of going out of bounds, questioning what you thought you knew to be true. Truth is, success is usually on the other side of being extremely uncomfortable, unbinding yourself and facing the direction of freedom.
Rule follower, boundary creator, mom, entrepreneur, wife, friend…unbind and be free. Colour outside the lines, tell someone ‘no’, tell someone ‘yes’, stay up late, close the office door. It’s your string and you are free to tape it wherever you want.