When you hear the words “self-care” what comes to your mind? Do you imagine a daily luxurious bubble bath, your evening routine of tea and meditation, a nourishing meal? Perhaps you see a lightning quick reel that skims over all of the care you are giving others, but not so much yourself. Or maybe you just snorted and said “self-what?” under your breath. Ya, I hear ya.
I have said this before, and I will say it again – I wish I could meet every single one of you in person and acknowledge you for what you do. We do it all. Just looking at one aspect of our lives, as entrepreneur Moms, our days are filled with creating, caregiving, planning, organizing, implementing and just plain handling ‘it’. We work hard when it comes to our business and our family and we love even harder in that same realm. We give ourselves in whole – mind, body and spirit to the things that matter. And we do it well.
We are the watering cans of our environment; from which we pour fresh clear water on the gardens around us. Our children, being the beautiful little flowers they are, bloom before our eyes. Our businesses and relationships grow strong sustainable roots as a result of the nourishment we provide. Eventually though, a lack of ‘filling ourselves’ results in an empty watering can, and we can not give what we do not have, nor can we show up as our best selves. And the question appears, who refills your watering can? Who pours the heart and soul into you so you can share it with your world? It’s you.
We aren’t going to sit around and wait for anything outside of ourselves to fill it up…we are going to grow little watering can legs and dance in the rain until we are ready to do what we do with grace and joy.
You’ve probably experienced an empty watering can. It may be empty right now. Or, it may be getting low, whispering to you that it’s time to fill it up. These whispers can be heard as a lack of creativity, loss of focus, low patience, seeing the glass half empty or just being tired of what once inspired you. I don’t want us to get to this point. What I want for you is to dance in the rain everyday, keeping the water level full and ready for anything.
Here are some tips to uncover and implement the best self care routine for you:
1) Identify what self-care would look like to you.
There are no boxes here, no parameters, list things that fill you up. Your self-care could be applying luxurious lotions to a weeklong spa retreat to getting a good hour in to wash your hair. One of my favorite self-care rituals is to paint my nails, not a big deal, but I love it.
2) Schedule it in.
We have 17 balls in the air at all times…don’t bank on a free half hour appearing at the end of the day for you to take care of yourself. It needs to be a priority.
I want you to declare your worth. Write all of the ways that you bring your brilliance to the table, all of the compassion and love you show others and yourself. Brag it up. Be utterly smitten with yourself – you are worth every moment you spend caring for yourself. Remind yourself of all the reasons you are worth the time.
Be accountable to yourself; take responsibility for your wellness as a whole. Make a serious commitment that you are going to take some time to fill your watering can. Simple.
We all know that we need to take care of ourselves to show up as best as we can. We’ve heard time and time again to put your own oxygen mask on before assisting others. It’s good advice, let’s do it.
“Find out what makes your heart sing and create your own music.” – Mac Anderson