I’m a Mom and a foster parent trying to raise 4 teenagers, while trying to run 2 different home based businesses. Most days, it seems to work and other days, I fail miserably at keeping it all together and running smoothly. Even though I consider myself a business owner, I don’t always feel that way. I’ve had a really hard time accepting my 2nd role in life; I am a woman of vision with a very strong entrepreneurial spirit and business sense. I am not “just a mom”.
Why is it so challenging for us “Mompreneurs” to really stretch out of our mom comfort zone? It’s so easy to say things like “I’m not a professional”, “I just do this for fun”, or “This is just something I do on the side”. Why can’t we just accept that we are some pretty amazing women, with great ideas and the ability to multi-task like no other? I love being a Mom, but I love that I’m able to be something else as well.
So how do we embrace our business side while still being there for our families?
Recognize your worth. Be sure to not de-value your skill set and/or ideas. Never fall into the trap of not being “good enough” because you’re not a world-wide brand.
Put a value on your time. Figure out what your hourly wage would be if you were working outside of the home or for someone else. It’s a great tool for measuring if you’re charging enough for your products or services and quite possibly where you’re wasting time.
Schedule time for Mom stuff and Work Stuff. You shouldn’t have to stay up until 2 am to accomplish a full day’s work. (Unless of course you’re like me and do your best work between the hours of 11pm-2am). Even if you don’t end up following your schedule to a tee, it helps just seeing what needs to be done and not wondering if you’ve forgotten something or someone.
Forgive yourself for the “Bad Mom” days. You are most definitely going to have them. Sometimes your business is going to win the time battle, and your kids won’t get the attention they deserve. It’s okay.
Don’t insist on doing everything yourself. If you’re blessed with a strong support system, use it. Kids can learn a lot from other people and don’t always need their Mamas for everything. It’s really hard to step aside, but sometimes, it’s exactly what our sanity and well-being demand.
Take a day off. Take two days actually … set up a day for yourself where you can work all day uninterrupted by kids or life. Take another day off from work completely and enjoy your family. When I started doing that, it made a significant difference in my life. It gave me the freedom to breathe and enjoy where I’m at and where I’m going.
You’re never going to be able to be all things to all people, but you can most certainly be an awesome Mom with a successful and thriving business. Enjoy both your roles, without guilt or doubt. It is so worth it.