Get clear on what you want and the difference you want to make in the world
What do you want to be when you grow up?
If you’re still asking yourself this question, you’re not alone.
I talk to client after client who is either in a job they know isn’t right for them (maybe it was once, but not anymore) or just feels unsure of what they really want to do for a living.
It seems like such a heavy, important decision, but it doesn’t have to be! And it’s not too late to find something you love – that gives you joy and a sense of purpose, and that makes you feel like you’re having the impact you want to have on the world.
When I was a teenager, I wanted to be a therapist. I grew up in a broken home and my goals were to:
- figure out what went wrong and make sure I never had to personally go through a divorce; and
- help others have a strong, happy marriage.
I got my degree in psychology and I loved it. I loved learning about how the brain works and about what makes each of us behave the way we do.
But when it came time to get a job, I realized I didn’t actually want to spend my days listening to people talk about their problems. I didn’t want to label, diagnose, and pathologize.
I wanted to talk about possibility! I wanted to hear about people’s goals and what made their hearts sing.
So I decided not to be a therapist, even though that had been my dream. Instead, I went into the corporate world, got my HR certification, and… spent my days listening to people talk about their problems!
Then I found coaching, and realized this was what I wanted all along! To talk about potential, about possibility, about taking steps to make your life better.
My desire to help make the world a better place didn’t go away. It’s still a huge priority for me to help people live more enjoyable, more fulfilled lives. But my “job” – how I spend my days – is very different.
So I invite you to start here: with your desired impact.
Once you have a clear idea of that, then ask yourself what you enjoy.
Then ask yourself what you’re good at. Notice I put this in third place. It’s not nearly as important as determining the impact you want to have, or what you enjoy doing.
I have a number of questions I ask my clients, as well as worksheets, to help them work through each of the three areas above and find their passions.
And the final step is my favourite: get into action! This is so important – go out and try different activities, and see if what you think you’ll like, you actually do! Think of it as an experiment – it doesn’t need to be perfect or big, just try something, some small step.
Michelle Robindell is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach with Ripple Effect Coaching in North Vancouver. She also co-founded Moms Get Real, which provides workshops, program and a positive, supportive community for moms from all walks of life.
Michelle’s coaching practice is rooted in four values: authenticity, gratitude, happiness, and vulnerability. She encourages her clients to be clear about goals, take risks and think positively. She then holds you accountable to, and helps you celebrate, those goals. While she does most of her coaching over the phone, she can also meet clients at Canopy Health in Lynn Valley.
She has two adorable children and an amazing husband and she feels very fortunate to have a generous, supportive extended family. She tries every day to be grateful for the people and experiences in her life.